I Want My Mommy

I still miss my mom and it's been 8 years since she died. I am not trying to whine because I was so lucky to have my mom at all, so I'm grateful for the time I got with her.

My mom died in 2000, when my daughters were 2 and 6. I found out I was pregnant with my second daughter Katie the same week my mom told us she had breast, abdomen and lung cancer. The doctors told her to prepare her will and set her estate in order as she "would probably not live to see her new grandchild".

Naturally, these doctors had never witnessed the power of my mom, Catherine Marguerite Jones. Mom was "old school", as she never left home without her pearls or her lipstick on. She looked like a lady but had a will of steel. She lived for over 2 years past the time the doctors gave her and was such a medical wonder, her case was STUDIED by one of the cancer specialists because it was so amazing she was around and in relatively good health.

Mother's Day is a great day for me as a Mom but it's bittersweet. Because I miss my mom and it hits me when I least expect it. There are times I almost pick up the phone to call her because I don't know what to do about the roses or I want to tell her something funny. Part of me is missing because she's not around.

I don't mean to be a downer but if you have lost your mom just know that there are others out there that feel the same way. You're not alone.

If you still have your mom, treasure the time with her. I'm sure she's probably making you crazy but know that you will miss her so much when she's no longer with you. Give her an extra hug this Mother's Day and let her tell you that bangs would look better on you, even if you are 38 years old and can take care of yourself just fine.

Comments

[Melissa P.]

I am so sorry for your loss of your mother.
Sending calming thoughts your way~

[Kris]

I've been reading for awhile, but this is my first comment because it's really close to my heart.

My mother lost her battle (five years longer than they said she'd live) 12/29/90, sixteen weeks after I got married. In my living room, as we were using hospice at her request. My son was born in January of 1992, and while Mother's Day is at best bittersweet for me, the Christmas season is pure hell.

Thank you, so much, for putting this out here for those of us who have such a mixed bag on Mother's Day. It's hard for me to enjoy it, and filled with how she and I spent those special days.

[Redsy]

This is beautiful... Thanks for sharing and thank you for this reminder... And thanks for commenting over at my piece on Babble.

-Rachael

[Kat]

great post...you are so flipping funny! I hope that you had a wonderful Mother's Day...I call it Mamapalooza!

[Tacky Princess]

Queen, you know that I too lost my wonderful mom far too young in life and have posted about that in the past. I can't seem to get through a Mother's Day without breaking down in tears at some point. I know that many probably think that I wax nostalgic when I tell them to appreciate the time they have with their mothers while they've got them -- this at times when their own moms are driving them to drink! ("Why don't you do something about your hair? Why can't you get your kids to behave in Mass?" And that sort of thing...) But you and I know too well how it is when they are gone. My mom died just 2 weeks after my first daughter was born. In fact, I had to be induced into labor, so we could fly home before she died. It was awful and something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. However, the memories I have of her will be with me forever, and I share them with my girls constantly. Happy Mother's Day (late!) to everyone out there in WT-land.
Tacky Princess :)

[MizFit]

thank you for sharing this

I like to think I dont need the reminder---but Im sure that I do.

[Aimee]

I loved this post. I took my Mom out on Mother's Day. She's been sick lately and as we sat next to each other eating I thought about how lucky I was to have her.
My Grandmother was a pearls and lipstick strength of steel lady. I totally know what you're saying. Anyway, xoxo from one WT Mom to another.

[Aimee]

I loved this post. I took my Mom out on Mother's Day. She's been sick lately and as we sat next to each other eating I thought about how lucky I was to have her.
My Grandmother was a pearls and lipstick strength of steel lady. I totally know what you're saying. Anyway, xoxo from one WT Mom to another.

[Aimee]

I loved this post. I took my Mom out on Mother's Day. She's been sick lately and as we sat next to each other eating I thought about how lucky I was to have her.
My Grandmother was a pearls and lipstick strength of steel lady. I totally know what you're saying. Anyway, xoxo from one WT Mom to another.

[Sharpie]

Thanks for the dose of reality - I needed that. Sorry you are feeling sad - I know I would be too - even if she drives me bat-shit crazy most days. Hugs to you!

[Marsha]

The same feelings are shared here. My Mom was diagnosed with lung cancer, then lost her battle a little more than two years later. She helped raise our oldest daughter, barely got to know our son, and never did get to meet our precious preemie miracle baby who was born almost a year later.

I found out I was three months pregnant the day after Mom died, then lost the baby the week after the funeral. We had already lost eight pregnancies, and Mom was always right there by my side. It almost makes me feel better knowing that she's in heaven with our children, taking care of them.

To everyone who's lost their mom or their child, my heart is truly with you.

[Anne]

So true... I'm sorry for your loss. What a tribute to LIFE you mom was, though!

Happy Mommy's Day to you and the Princess, both.

[~JJ!]

I do know.

And I'm sorry.

[Kelley]

big smootches to you sweetie. I will put a smile on my face while my mother tells me the woes of her world and think of you my lovely.

Happy (bittersweet) Mothers day.

[Erika]

Not only is mother's day hard on people who've lost their mom's, mother's day is hard on mom's who've lost their child.

Whether by death or adoption, it is a bittersweet day and I will be thinking of those who are grieving that day.I'll keep a prayer for everyone to have a great day.

[Laura]

Amen to that. Hugs xxxx

[Nicki]

*HUGS*

[Jamie]

Thanks for the reminder to appreciate our moms (and other loved ones) while they are here with us.

[JunglesWife]

I was planning to mention the same thing in a blog post. Mother's Day is a bittersweet day for me as well, even though my mother died 36 years ago.

[Martha W]

I lost my Mom 2 years ago and I can really relate. I also miss her and think of her often. My mother died 3 weeks after my youngest brother so May/June are sad times for me. We all need to tell our loved ones we value them while we can.